20 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

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There’s no getting around the fact that relationships aren’t easy. First, you’ve got to find someone you connect with and set up a date to see if there’s a spark. From there, it gets even trickier. After spending time together, you need to decide if that person is someone you’d like to continue seeing or if y0u’d rather keep looking for a better match. Making this choice is sometimes difficult—although it can be easier when certain red flags are present. To help you know what what warning signs indicate that your relationship is doomed (or bound to make you unhappy), we’ve consulted therapists about the red flags you should never ignore. Read on to save yourselves years of agony with an incompatible partner.

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What Is a Relationship Red Flag?

The term “red flag” applies to any behavior that could lead to a toxic dynamic within your relationship. The idiom can be traced back to the 18th century when actual red flags were deployed during battle to signal danger or a need to halt. Ships flying these banners were known to show “ no quarter ,” or no mercy, and railways would use them as a sign to stop.

While not all red flags are capable of destroying a relationship, they do need to be addressed. Even minor issues can balloon into major points of contention between you and your partner. It’s also important to understand the full spectrum of red flags out there. We should all recognize that controlling behavior and communication issues can weigh on a relationship, but little things like poor eye contact or a string of stories concerning “crazy” exes could spell trouble, as well.

20 Red Flags to Look for in a Relationship

1. All of their exes are somehow “crazy.”

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If you meet someone who only has negative things to say about every ex, consider it a red flag. It’s not like you need to look back at all your past relationships fondly, but if your partner isn’t able to come up with something nice to say about a single one, then it begs the question: Is it the exes, or are they the common denominator in a string of unsuccessful relationships? “It can be a situation in which your partner is rewriting history and always blaming others,” says Marisa T. Cohen , PhD , marriage and family therapist . “If this is the case, the person isn’t acknowledging the part they play in the relationship.”

2. They don’t have much of a social circle.

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If your new partner is somewhat of a lone wolf, that could be cause for concern. Jessica Harrison , a licensed professional counselor and owner of Courageous Counseling and Consulting, says a lack of long-term friendships is a huge red flag. “It shows that they have not been committed to growing in relationships, which takes time and effort on both friends’ part,” says Harrison. “People change over time and part of being in a long-term friendship means accepting your friends and friendship as it redefines itself throughout the lifecycle.” If they haven’t practiced this in a friendship, they might struggle to do it in a romantic relationship.

It is possible to move forward with someone who doesn’t have long-term friendships. Harrison simply recommends ensuring you don’t become detached from your own social circle while you do it. “Many people who do not have positive, long-term friendships in their lives will request, suggest, or demand that you also release some of your friendships,” she warns. “Do not make this tragic mistake.” Your friends are your support system, and you should ditch anyone who wants you to ditch them.

3. They’re rushing the relationship forward way too fast.

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This is actually a pretty common red flag to see during the early stages of a new relationship. Younger people might refer to this practice as “love bombing,” which is a term for someone showering you with affection and attention. Of course, enthusiasm in a new relationship is always appreciated. However, some abusers use love bombing to manipulate their partners, confusing them into accepting mistreatment. Too much attention too fast could quickly devolve into dependent behaviors down the line, and that opens the door to plenty of other toxic dynamics.

4. They’re trying to change you.

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The right partner will accept you as you are, while the wrong partner may do the opposite. “One of the biggest red flags in a relationship is when you find you are becoming involved with someone who wants to change the way you behave, speak, dress, interact with others, live, or spend your time,” says Monica Vermani , clinical psychologist and author of A Deeper Wellness . “Someone who wants to change you essentially does not want the real you, they want their version of the perfect partner—and they’re willing to train, disparage, and manipulate an individual into becoming their perfect partner.”

5. Your relationship goals don’t align.

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This is another one of those common red flags that tend to pop up at the beginning of a newly formed romantic relationship. While it’s normal not to rush into “the talk,” it is important to eventually outline your relationship goals . According to Cohen, avoiding the subject could signal that they want something a lot more casual than what you may have been hoping for.

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6. You never fight.

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Screaming profanities at your significant other is not OK, but if you never disagree at all, it may be a red flag. “When couples say they don’t fight, I always consider this a sign that the relationship is not as strong as you might think,” says Nicole Rainey , licensed mental health counselor and founder of Mosaic Creative Counseling, LLC. “Avoiding conflict or disagreements isn’t the sign of a healthy relationship and couples that say they don’t fight often mean they each keep things stuffed down and don’t communicate their issues out loud.” When their true feelings are stifled, resentment can grow.

7. They’re showing signs of substance abuse.

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Some may consider evidence of substance abuse a yellow flag—i.e. a reason to be cautious rather than to end the relationship right away. For others, it may be a deal breaker. “It’s tricky,” says Cohen. “It may be a red flag for someone if they have had substance use issues themselves or have supported a loved one through their journey with substance use.” Going through the motions again with a new partner might be too much of a trigger for some people.

That said, a partner’s addiction struggles don’t necessarily have to tank the relationship. “This in and of itself isn’t necessarily a problem,” she adds. “The person may actively be working on ways to manage their substance use and seek appropriate help.”

8. You’re hiding your doubts about the relationship.

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Be honest: Do you think your person is the one ? If your inner voice says no, it’s a major red flag. “People can have recurring thoughts of doubt that they downplay in their mind and don’t openly share because they think it is their own problem and something they need to figure out,” says Matthew Brace , LMFT, who works with couples at Therapy Embraced . “Within the relationship, things may seem fine, but one partner may be preoccupied with unwanted thoughts of doubt and feeling stuck on what to do.” When these thoughts go unaddressed, it can lead to a disconnect within the relationship.

To improve this issue, the partner with doubts must fess up—and the other partner must take it in stride. “If someone shares their doubts and their partner responds in a reassuring and understanding way, it will strengthen the relationship,” Brace says. “However, if someone shares their thoughts of doubt and their partner responds critically, it will likely create distance in the relationship and potentially confirm the assumptions of doubt.”

9. You don’t have deep conversations.

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Your first date will likely be filled with small talk and banter. But if you don’t begin to develop emotional intimacy as you continue to see a new person, it could be a red flag. “As the relationship progresses, there should be discussions about all of the hard topics—religion, politics, money, emotions,” says Dana Torpey-Newman , a licensed clinical psychologist who specializes in couples therapy. “These should be real conversations where differences are identified and examined.” While discussing these topics early can’t guarantee you won’t face disagreements down the road, “you greatly increase the probability of moving in a connected way through these events if you have shared values and perspectives on life,” she says.

10. Your friends and family don’t want to spend time with them.

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Usually, friends and family members have only our best interests in mind, so it’s a pretty big deal for them not to want to spend time with your partner. According to Cohen, an openly hostile relationship between your partner and other people close to you may indicate larger issues at play. Not only that, but the longer the issue persists, the more likely you are to become alienated from your own support network. Conflict resolution and compromise are two important components of a relationship. Refusing to participate in either of these processes for the sake of bettering your connection is a major red flag.

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11. They avoid eye contact.

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If you feel like you haven’t looked your partner in the eyes in weeks, that could be cause for concern. “As a general rule, humans engage in eye contact with people they feel closer to or are attracted to,” says David Helfand , PsyD, licensed psychologist and owner of Life Wise. “If you notice your partner is avoiding eye contact it might mean something is happening beneath the surface that needs to be addressed.”

You can also ask yourself the same question: Am I avoiding eye contact and why?

Helfand says this issue can be resolved through eye gazing. “Many couples feel closer to each other spending even just a few minutes two to five days per week looking into each others’ eyes,” he explains, noting that this can happen during sex, or simply when you’re sitting on the couch together after work. “It is a powerful way to rebuild a connection with a loved one and can have profound effects on the relationship and each person’s individual well-being,” he adds.

12. You assume they would never do something.

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It can be as simple as assuming your partner would never skydive or as serious as assuming they’d never cheat or walk out. “If a person believes their partner would ‘never’ do or think this or that, it means they might have an idea of their partner instead of seeing them as a whole, complex person,” says Alli Spotts-De Lazzer , licensed marriage and family therapist . “Further, that kind of thinking can cause a person to miss both subtle and overt signs due to their own mindset.”

To fix this issue, stop making assumptions. “Even a thought-revision to ‘I don’t believe my partner would X’ can help,” says Spotts-De Lazzer. “For a relationship to be authentically strong, we need to see each other in realistic ways instead of idealistic ideas about who a person is.”

13. They’re bad at communication.

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Communication is an absolute must in a relationship. An inability to communicate openly and with understanding allows even the smallest miscommunications to balloon into something much worse. Talking things out is important for your own sanity, too. Think about it. Has bottling things up ever actually helped matters? If anything, it just leads to more resentment down the line.

Of course, not everyone has an easy time opening up about their feelings, and communication can take different forms. However, it is important to find some method of connecting to resolve any issues that might arise.

14. You feel more yourself when they aren’t around.

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“Strong relationships are often a source of comfort,” says Allison Raskin , author of Overthinking About You: Navigating Romantic Relationships When You Have Anxiety, OCD, and/or Depression . “If you feel like you are having to walk on eggshells or overthink your behavior when you are with your significant other, that can be a signal that you aren’t a safe space for each other.”

This doesn’t mean your relationship is necessarily doomed to fail, however. “Sometimes periods of disconnection happen in long-term relationships and you can re-find that connection through vulnerable (and maybe uncomfortable) conversations, or by spending more quality time together,” Raskin tells Best Life . “Think about what other people do to make you feel comfortable and heard and then, if your partner is lacking in these areas, maybe initiate a discussion about what you can both do to make things better.”

15. They are unwilling to compromise.

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Every relationship takes compromise. But who is accommodating whom? If it’s always you who’s stepping back, it could be a sign of a toxic relationship. “While flexibility is a strength, compromise should be a two-way street. But sometimes couples get locked in a dynamic where one partner is always the one to give in in order to keep the peace,” says Raskin.

“If you find that you are the only one who ever compromises (from big to small issues), it is worth trying to stand your ground about something and see how your partner reacts,” she suggests. “Maybe you have just been folding too quickly to give them the chance to step up, or maybe you will learn that they are incredibly stubborn and unwavering. Either way, you want to try to break the cycle so there is more balance and less room for resentment to build.”

16. They act up when you spend time away from them.

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Any attempt to alienate you from other relationships is a red flag, plain and simple. Healthy relationships should nurture each partner’s independence. You should be able to do things for yourself, tend to your own needs, and be happy spending time with others, even when your partner isn’t around.

If your partner has a problem with that, then you may need to reexamine your dynamic. “A person who acts up when you spend time away from them may be trying to control you and limit your social support access to others,” says Cohen.

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17. Your gut tells you something is off.

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Sometimes, a negative gut feeling is the most telling red flag—even if you can’t pinpoint the issue. “If you have a feeling of caution about the person you’re dating, don’t ignore it,” says Michael Ceely , licensed marriage and family therapist and owner of Ceely Counseling. “That’s your own personal red flag, and it’s trying to tell you something.”

David Helfand , a licensed psychologist specializing in couples therapy, agrees. “The human gut has an entire nervous system called the enteric nervous system,” he says. “It helps us tune into very subtle awareness, but because it lacks a cortex, it does not have language or discrete consciousness.” However, he notes that the body can react and send us messages long before our conscious mind makes sense of a situation. So, if your gut is telling you something, listen up—it could be the biggest red flag of them all.

18. Their quirks no longer seem cute.

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It’s normal to occasionally get annoyed by your partner. Everyone has quirks, and they aren’t always adorable. But you shouldn’t spend the majority of your time together feeling irritated by your partner’s presence. An inability to embrace their idiosyncrasies may indicate that there’s a more substantial problem within the relationship. Really think about what’s bothering you—and why.

19. They have issues with anger management.

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Your partner being unable to control themselves during an argument is one of those warning signs that should not be ignored.

“Poor self-regulation can lead to poor relationships,” says Cohen. It’s normal for couples to have conflict from time to time, but it’s also imperative to practice conflict resolution in a way that leaves everyone feeling validated—and, even more importantly, safe.

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20. Any kind of physical, verbal, or emotional abuse.

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Abusive behavior is a step above a red flag. It’s a reason to walk away from a relationship immediately.

We all make compromises for our partners, but your health and wellbeing should never be at stake. If you feel unsafe within your relationship, reach out and get support—whether that’s through family and friends, a professional source, or both.

Abuse doesn’t take just one form, either. Emotional neglect, verbal mistreatment, and financial abuse are just a few methods by which abusers may seek to control their partners. If any of this sounds familiar to you, make a plan to remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible.

Wrapping Up

228 Questions to Ask a Girl During Your Next Date

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Asking a bunch of questions isn’t just a way good way to get to know someone—it’s also an effective means of letting them know you’re interested in what they have to say. Individuals who ask a lot of questions are perceived more positively, too; appearing likable and more capable of intimacy. At the very least, the practice can lead to some great conversation. You never know when a few interesting questions will snowball into something else entirely; be it an antidote from the past or a friendly debate for new friends.

Of course, you do want to tailor things towards the person you’re speaking with, which is why we’ve compiled a list of questions to ask a girl on a first date or when trying to deepen your connection to someone close. We’ve even got a few questions that you can ask over text. Because let’s be honest—it’s not always easy to be so upfront in person. Below, you’ll find the all material you need to get started.

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228 Fun Questions to Ask a Girl

Check out the list below for new ways to strike up a fun conversation. After all, you never know when a few random questions will lead to a more interesting story. If nothing else, these prompts are sure to help you get to know each other just a little bit better.

Interesting Conversation Starters

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1. What’s the weirdest tradition your family practices?
2. What’s your favorite word in the English language?
3. What’s the most out-of-character thing you’ve ever done?
4. Do you have a favorite joke?
5. Who’s your favorite animated character?
6. What’s your dream job?
7. Would you rather have more money or more time?
8. What’s the best way to reconnect with old friends?
9. How did you meet your best friend?
10. What’s your go-to karaoke song ?
11. What’s your favorite movie?
12. What’s your favorite memory from your time spent overseas?
13. What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done on vacation?
14. What’s the first memory you can remember?
15. What’s your favorite food?
16. Are you an early bird or a night owl?
17. What’s your spirit animal?
18. Have you ever been hypnotized?
19. What’s the worst job you’ve ever had?
20. What’s the most embarrassing phase you’ve ever gone through?
21. What’s the weirdest food you’ve ever tried?
22. What’s your favorite true crime podcast?
23. Do you like your name?
24. Who’s your favorite celebrity chef?
25. Would you ever take ayahuasca?
26. Do you have a favorite reality TV show?
27. What’s your favorite sport that doesn’t involve a ball?
28. What three words would your friends use to describe you?
29. Who’s your favorite fictional character?
30. What do you prefer, sunrise or sunset?
31. Have you ever been arrested?
32. Do you often remember your dreams?
33. Have you ever seen a ghost?
34. Would you ever pose nude for a photograph or painting?
35. What’s the weirdest punishment they performed during the Middle Ages?
36. What’s do you think is the worst quality about the opposite sex?
37. What’s a fun way to get to know someone, besides dinner and drinks?
38. What road trips would you like to take?
39. Would you prefer camping or glamping?
40. Would you rather have really nice furniture and a small house or really cheap furniture and a mansion?
41. What is your favorite children’s book?
42. Would you rather be able to play every instrument in the world or be fluent in all languages?
43. What’s the fanciest restaurant that you’ve ever been to and what did you order?

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Flirty Questions to Ask a Girl

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1. Do I look anything like your celebrity crush?
2. What’s your biggest guilty pleasure?
3. Do you like having your picture taken?
4. What about being a woman do you appreciate most?
5. What’s your favorite thing to do during a first date?
6. How many guys have performed a grand romantic gesture for you?
7. What’s the stupidest thing someone has ever said to you on a first date?
8. What do you think my body language is trying to tell you?
9. What do you usually wear to bed?
10. Have you ever purchased something from an adult retailer?
11. Where do you like to be kissed most?
12. What’s your favorite part of the male body?
13. What do you think the most beautiful part of the female body is?
14. When am I taking you out to dinner?
15. Do you believe in love at first sight?
16. What’s your biggest turn-on?
17. Have you ever filmed yourself getting it on?
18. What are the top three qualities you look for in a partner?
19. Do you prefer to make the first move?
20. Have you ever sent a dirty text message?
21. Do you prefer kissing or cuddling?
22. Did you ever have the hots for a teacher?
23. What color do you think would look best on me?
24. Where would you rather meet up, a cafe or a bar?
25. How would you describe your ideal relationship?
26. What’s more important, intelligence or appearance?
27. What are your biggest turn-offs?
28. How many dates would you need to go on before engaging in a Netflix and chill?
29. Do you have any secret talents?
30. Do you like trying new things?
31. Have you ever gone skinny dipping?
32. Do you like massages?
33. What’s your favorite way to relax?
34. Do you have plans this weekend?
35. Ideally, how long would intimacy last?
36. Have you ever initiated a booty call?

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Funny Questions to Ask a Girl

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1. What’s your most embarrassing moment?
2. What’s the weirdest thing that’s ever happened to you on a date?
3. What’s the best practical joke someone has ever pulled on you?
4. What’s the worst pick-up line someone has ever used on you?
5. How would you defend yourself during a zombie apocalypse?
6. What’s an irrational fear that you can make some sense of?
7. Which U.S. president would make the best boyfriend?
8. What kind of food do you think is totally disgusting?
9. Who is the least talented actor working today?
10. What’s your Hogwarts House?
11. Have you ever lied about your age?
12. Have you ever participated in a hot dog eating contest?
13. Would you care if your boyfriend had a more elaborate skincare routine than you?
14. Do you have a favorite dinosaur?
15. Would you rather be allergic to the sun or allergic to your favorite food?
16. What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever overheard?
17. When was the last time you sent something via snail mail?
18. What was your favorite TV show as a kid?
19. What’s your biggest pet peeve?
20. What’s one habit that you’ve carried with you since childhood?
21. Pineapple on pizza: yes or no?
22. Would you rather have a private plane or a private yacht?
23. What’s your favorite condiment?
24. What fictional character do you think would be easiest to beat in a fight?
25. How would you defend yourself during the Purge?
26. Which color do you think would taste the best?
27. If you were an instrument what would you be?
28. What’s one body part do you think you could live without?
29. Which cartoon character do you think is most likely to be a serial killer?
30. Which founding father would make the best sugar daddy?
31. What’s the sexiest fruit you can think of?
32. What’s the worst bathroom experience you’ve ever had?
33. How would you react if you found a rodent in your bedroom?
34. What type of cheese matches your personality best?
35. What’s your favorite writing utensil?
36. What show are you currently binge-watching?
37. Have you ever cross-dressed?
38. Do you know how to set a table properly?
39. What’s your favorite cheesy quote?
40. Whose clothes would you prefer to wear, your mom’s or your dad’s?
41. Do you still watch any cartoons?
42. If you had to join the circus, what job would you want?
43. Would you rather live in a world full of witches or a world full of superheroes?
44. Let’s say reincarnation is real: What would you want to come back as?

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What If Questions to Ask a Girl

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1. What if you only had one day left to live? What would you want to do?
2. What if you could relive one day in your life? Which would you choose and why?
3. What if you could go back in time and change the future of events? Would you do it?
4. What if you could read people’s minds? Would you use your superpower for your own personal gain?
5. What if your family didn’t approve of your significant other? Would you still stay with them?
6. What if you had to decide between love and money? What would you choose?
7. What if we got stranded in a remote location? Who do you think would save the day?
8. What if you met a guy who didn’t speak English? Would you give him a shot?
9. What if you were given one million dollars? What would you buy first?
10. What if you had to decide between your vision and your hearing? Which sense would you choose to keep?
11. What if someone you love committed a terrible crime? Would you visit them in prison?
12. What if you could live for 200 years? Would you do it?
13. What if you could cure a disease? Which one would you choose to eradicate?
14. What if you could experience happiness without any sadness? Would you choose to forgo the latter?
15. What if you were invited to have tea with the King of England? Would you accept the offer?
16. What if you could learn a new language with the press of a button? Which one would you choose?
17. What if you could get away with never doing a certain chore ever again? Which one would you avoid?
18. What if you became President of the United States? Which cause would you pursue first?
19. What if you could teleport anywhere in the world? Where would you go?
20. What if one of my friends made a move on you? Would you let me know?
21. What if you found out the guy you were dating liked dancing naked to the Backstreet Boys? Would that be a dealbreaker?
22. What if your boyfriend went to prison? Would you wait for him?
23. What if I gained a ton of weight? Would you still be interested in me?
24. What if your worst fear came true? How would you cope?
25. What if animals could talk? Which would be most annoying to listen to?
26. What if you weren’t allowed near a computer for the next month? Would you catch up on your reading or simply move operations onto your phone?
27. What if you could only watch one reality TV show for the rest of your life? Which would you choose?
28. What if you could only communicate by breaking out into song? Which one would you choose to let people know you were upset?
29. What if you could play the perfect prank? Who would you target?
30. What if real life were more like the movies? Which film would you want yours to resemble?
31. What if your 13-year-old self drafted your dating profile ? What would it say?
32. What if you went on a first date with someone who only listened to elevator music? Would you agree to go out with them again?
33. What if you could pick a famous person to insult? Who would you choose and what would you say?
34. What if you had to eat the same meal every day for the rest of your life? What would you make?
35. What if you had to choose a different hair color? Which would you settle on?
36. What if animals could make documentaries about humans? What weird things would they show?
37. What if you were born a child prodigy? What skill would you want to excel at?

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Questions to Ask a Girl Over Text

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1. Are you watching anything good right now?
2. What’s the most annoying thing about where you live?
3. Have you already had dinner?
4. How do you feel about small talk?
5. What’s your favorite emoji?
6. What’s a GIF that best describes how you’re feeling right now?
7. How’s work going?
8. What are you wearing?
9. What’s the funniest thing you’ve seen on TikTok today?
10. What are your plans for this weekend?
11. What’s your favorite place to get takeout from?
12. What’s the cutest thing your dog/cat has done today?
13. Is it cold in your apartment/house right now?
14. Have you had coffee yet?
15. What are you doing for dinner?
16. What’s your favorite quote from a movie?
17. What time are you going to bed?
18. What’s a song that you can listen to over and over again?
19. What’s the weirdest message someone has ever sent you on Tinder?
20. What’s the funniest picture you have on your phone?
21. Which phone app do you use most?
22. What’s the weirdest thing that’s happened to you this week?
23. What do you usually do on the weekends?
24. Do you want to FaceTime?
25. Are you watching anything good tonight?
26. Do you have a favorite documentary?
27. Will you send me a picture? It can be of anything!

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Deep Questions to Ask a Girl

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1. What’s the biggest lesson life has ever taught you?
2. Do you consider yourself a spiritual person?
3. What do you think is the worst thing about getting older?
4. What’s one activity that you have on your bucket list?
5. What’s your favorite childhood memory?
6. Who is your favorite family member?
7. Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship ?
8. What personality trait do you consider to be a red flag?
9. What types of jobs exist only because people are lazy?
10. Do you consider yourself to be a good person?
11. Have you ever confronted any of your deepest fears?
12. What’s one thing you would want both you and your significant other to enjoy?
13. Is there anything you would change about yourself?
14. What do you think is the most dangerous quality a person can possess?
15. Do you have a good relationship with your mom?
16. What are three principles you want to instill in your children?
17. What energizes you?
18. What’s your worst habit?
19. If you could be a fly on the wall anywhere and at any point in history, what would you choose and why?
20. What do you want to be remembered for?
21. Do you want to get married someday?
22. If you wanted children, but couldn’t conceive naturally, what other options would you consider?
23. What’s something you want to achieve in life?
24. When are you happiest?
25. If you won the lottery, would you still want to work?
26. What sounds more appealing, stability or spontaneity?
27. How can you tell when you’re in love?
28. Who do you call when you need advice?
29. Would you take in a stray animal that needed a home?
30. What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
31. What smell brings you comfort?
32. How would you like to be perceived by others?
33. Do you keep in touch with your exes?
34. When you enter a room, do you prefer to stand out or blend in?
35. Would you prefer to live in a treehouse in the woods or a cottage by the ocean?
36. Would you rather be known for your beauty or kindness?
37. What’s the most important thing for a healthy relationship?
38. What single event has had the biggest impact on who you are?
39. What’s the most extreme example of poverty you’ve ever seen?
40. Do you think that war is inevitable or that specific leadership styles can help us avoid it?
41. Do you believe in past lives?