6 Reasons to Hire a Dating Coach in 2024—And How to Find One

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Ask just about anyone in the dating game, and they’ll tell you that it’s hard out there for singles in 2024 . According to a recent article published by The Cut , horror stories from this “increasingly hellish dating landscape” are only getting worse. It’s not uncommon to hear tales of schemers, scammers, and even stalkers infiltrating the dating pool to disastrous—and sometimes disturbing—results. Some singles find the scene so discouraging that they’ve sworn off dating entirely.

However, before you give up on finding fruitful connections, there may be one last hail mary to try: hiring a dating coach. Experts say that a good coach can offer the leg up you need to find that special someone, and importantly, they can also help you grow your dating skills and self-awareness, ultimately making you a better partner if you do couple up.

Wondering if a dating coach might be able to help you find the love of your life? These are the six reasons to hire a dating coach in 2024, as well as some tips on how to find the right one.

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The Biggest Challenges in Dating

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A big part of winning the game of love is understanding the playing field. Experts say this means recognizing the roadblocks standing between you and the relationship you desire.

Dating coach Nicole Moore says one of the biggest challenges she sees in modern dating is finding someone who truly wants a commitment. She explains that dating app culture has trained some daters to always look for the next great thing, making it difficult for individuals who want more than a fling.

“Another big challenge of modern dating is that people are generally exhausted by their everyday lives, so the idea of going out on many dates and not finding a connection can feel extremely daunting,” Moore tells Best Life. “Many people are simply too tired to go on a lot of dates. They would love to find ‘the one,’ but they feel exhausted by the effort of trying to find them.”

Finally, with the proliferation of AI, filters, and scams, many people feel it’s hard to tell who is genuine these days, Moore adds. This is not only a problem when it comes to finding love—it’s also a safety concern.

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What Can a Dating Coach Do for You?

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A good dating coach will tailor their services to your personalized needs and goals. “This can be anything from learning how to date, overcoming dating fears, or finding someone to be in a committed relationship with,” Moore says.

“A dating coach may review a client’s dating profile and provide tips on how to maximize it to attract the kind of people they want to be dating, help a client identify their fears and triggers around dating and heal them, help clients communicate with dates or partners in a more loving way, or help clients decide if someone is the right match for them,” she explains.

Additionally, she says a truly great dating coach not only helps with developing dating tactics but also helps clients do the inner work that will help them grow into better potential partners.

“This includes boosting confidence, helping clients show up as their most authentic self in dating, and helping clients identify and work through any patterns that have caused their love life not to work in the past so they can create a way better result,” she says.

Nash Wright , a dating coach with over 10 years of specialized experience in working with male daters, adds that it’s also important to help clients examine their own attitudes.

“A lot of men have unattractive ideas about themselves, about women, and about dating. A good coach can help clean up those limiting ideas and provide healthier ideas that can help think differently about dating and to move forward,” Wright says.

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6 Reasons to Hire a Dating Coach in 2024

There are plenty of reasons you might decide to seek professional help when it comes to your love life. These are the top six, according to dating coaches themselves.

1. You find dating more frustrating than fulfilling.

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The first step in deciding whether to hire a dating coach is to take a step back and pay attention to how dating makes you feel.

“If you have been trying to date for years and find the journey frustrating (rather than fulfilling),” you might benefit from professional guidance, says Noah Heymann , a dating and relationship coach for DateCoach.com .

2. Dating brings out a side of you that you don’t like.

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When you date, emotions tend to run high. If you find that this brings out a side of you that’s unconducive to a healthy relationship, a coach may be able to help you address those concerns. A therapist can also help you tackle any underlying emotional issues.

“If you’re a person that can veer towards becoming super attached to people you’re dating in an unhealthy way, or you become overly anxious or controlling during the dating process, having a dating coach to act as an intermediary between you and your dates to help you break the patterns before you project them onto others will be highly beneficial,” Moore explains.

She adds that if you feel “easily triggered, fearful, or insecure when it comes to dating,” this may also signal that a dating coach could be right for you.

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Many people feel out of place in today’s dating world—especially people who have re-entered the dating pool after a long period of inactivity or after ending a long-term relationship.

“If you want love but you’ve been single for a very long time and you feel scared of dating or like you don’t know how to navigate the new dating world, calling a dating coach would be a great idea,” Moore says.

4. What you’re doing just isn’t working.

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If your dating habits look good on paper but don’t amount to anything meaningful, this is another indication that a dating coach could help you.

“Someone might benefit from a dating coach if they’re taking all the right actions like going out to meet people—going on dating apps and asking to be set up by friends—but none of their efforts are resulting in them finding the right person,” says Moore. “In this scenario, there are often inner blocks to work through before that person can find true love, and working with a dating coach is a great way to do that.”

5. You go on very few first dates.

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Another common problem is that the numbers simply aren’t working in your favor. Wright says he sees this often among his client base of male daters seeking connections with women.

“One reason why a man would want to work with a good coach is he just isn’t dating enough,” Wright says. “I would suggest single men should aim to date at least one new woman a month. One new woman a month—or dating at least twelve new women a year—should allow him to learn and grow, to get better at dating. It takes practice. If a man isn’t finding that kind of opportunity, a coach might help inspire him to do more.”

Of course, this formula applies to all genders.

6. You recognize a pattern, but you don’t know how to break it.

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Finally, Wright says another common situation in which a dating coach is helpful is when someone repeatedly encounters the same problems in their dating life.

For instance, if you can get first dates but not progress past that point, if you struggle to initiate intimacy, or if you notice your confidence drops when you transition from digital to in-person communications, these are all good signs that a coach could help you identify and remedy a harmful cycle.

RELATED: The 25 Questions You Should Never Ask on a First Date .

How to Find a Good Dating Coach

Connecting with the right dating coach is not unlike the dating process itself. Here’s how to begin your search and ensure you maximize your investment.

Browse Instagram, YouTube, and podcasts.

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Finding the right dating coach is not unlike finding a partner in that you’ll need to gather information and assess compatibility.

“Finding a good dating coach should be quite simple with technology, but to ensure you are finding the right dating coach for you, look in places where you can see them in action, such as YouTube and podcasts,” recommends Sam Morris , a healthy sex and relationship coach with over 10 years of experience.

Moore agrees that YouTube is a great place to start when you want to hire a good dating coach. You can find video content from a wide range of coaches and narrow your search to those who really resonate with you.

Finally, Heymann notes that nearly all dating coaches have an Instagram account where you can get a sense of their style and expertise.

“You may want to choose one who offers a free intro session to be confident that your romantic goals and circumstances and their methods align,” he notes.

Look for someone who understands dating technology.

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Today, tech-savvy daters are often more successful—meaning your dating coach should be able to guide you through the intricacies of digital dating platforms and tools.

“If you plan to pursue online dating, be sure to choose a coach who is not merely sharing their opinion but is deeply versed in the data of what apps, profiles, photos, and messages are most likely to lead to love and able to impart these in a way you can digest and use,” says Heymann.

Make sure their credentials are up to snuff.

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Of course, dating isn’t all about the apps. There are also some old-school qualifications that you should look for in a coach.

“It can be harder than ever to find a good dating coach because anyone can go and be ‘certified’ for around $30,” says Morris. “My advice is to look for people who have a degree around human behavior and have at least five years experience working with people on a one-to-one basis. This doesn’t need to be in their own business, but people who have experience, know how to talk to clients, which makes them the best coaches.”

83 Rizz Lines to Help You Land Your Next Date

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It’s a tale as old as time: Two people cross paths. They lock eyes. There’s interest, there’s desire. But there’s also a lack of initiative taken. The attraction remains unspoken, and they move on, never to see each other again. “Why couldn’t I have just thought of something clever to say?,” they both ask. But don’t worry—this doesn’t have to happen to you. Because there’s a new method of flirting making its way around the dating pool—one that allows you to make contact easily, often, and without shame. Enter the world of rizz lines , the newest craze in modern dating.

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What Are Rizz Lines?

Rizz lines are pick-up lines but with a post-millennial twist. The word “rizz” is a slang term for “charisma”—and Gen-Z’s way of saying you’ve got game . Like so many other trends popular with this generation, the trend started to take off after making its way around TikTok and other forms of social media.

Where Should I Use Rizz Lines?

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Rizz lines can be said almost anywhere, but there are certain environments in which they would be inappropriate. Think work, funerals, the ER—you see what we’re getting at. But they’re growing more and more popular in all the obvious places, such as bars, parks, and parties.

Of course, there’s another space where this clever wordplay is welcome: Online. There’s a reason why these quips took off on social media in the first place. Digital outlets aren’t just popular platforms for flirting these days, they’re where many people prefer to do it . Now that you know what you’re looking for, you’ll see rizz lines in gaming rooms, on dating apps, and all over social media.

What Makes a Good Rizz Pick-Up Line?

A good rizz line should tick three specific boxes: Originality, relevance, and respect. Even the funniest pick-up lines get old. Finding ways to evolve your flirting and be creative shows that you can keep up with the times. You also want your attempt to be relevant to the person you’re talking to, which indicates that you’ve taken the time to learn something about them. And maintaining respect will increase your chances of actually getting a response.

What Should I Avoid in a Rizz Line?

No one needs another unwanted suitor around them or in their DMs. Don’t come on too strong, and don’t say anything that might offend the person you’re trying to impress. If they aren’t receptive to your efforts, then it’s time to walk away.

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The Absolute Best Rizz Lines

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  1. If you were a typeface, you’d be fine print.
  2. Are you iron? Because I don’t get enough of you.
  3. We’re not pants, but we’d make a great pair.
  4. When I was a kid, I had to chase butterflies. Now you’re over here, bringing them right to me.
  5. Are you tired of running through my mind all day?
  6. Are you my grades? Because you’re bad AF.
  7. Hey, my name’s Microsoft. Can I crash at your place tonight?
  8. Are you part phone charger? ‘Cause I’m dying without you
  9. I don’t think I need glasses anymore, because I can clearly see that we’re meant to be.
  10. Do you play soccer? Because you’re definitely a keeper.
  11. You must be my lucky charm because you’re magically delicious.
  12. Right now you’re looking like my keyboard because you’re just my type.

Clever Rizz Pick-Up Lines

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  1. Want a raisin? No? How about a date?
  2. Are you the school stairs? Because you take my breath away.
  3. I can’t taste my cherry lip gloss! Can you give it a try?
  4. Are you a hurdle? Because I can’t get over you.
  5. You want to know why I’m always thinking about you? Because my mom told me to think about my future.
  6. I guess I’m a photographer because I sure can picture us together.
  7. Are you public speaking? Because you make me nervous.
  8. Is your name Candy? Because I definitely have a crush on you.
  9. Are you John Cena ? Because I’ve never Cena girl like you before.
  10. Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?
  11. Life without you is like a broken pencil: Pointless.
  12. Are you my long hair? Because I miss you.

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More Funny Rizz Pick-Up Lines

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  1. Are you my bed? Because I never want to leave you.
  2. To quote the poet Katy Perry , “You make me feel like I am living a teenage dream!”
  3. I must have been a star in my past life because I just fell from the sky and into your arms.
  4. Do you like Star Wars ? Cause Yoda only one for me.
  5. Are you a tub of ice cream? Cause I wanna spoon you all night.
  6. My favorite word is “universe” because it starts with “U N I.”
  7. What is your favorite drink? I am asking so I know what to buy you when we go on our first date.
  8. You want to know my favorite tea? I’m looking at her, shawTea!
  9. You’re so sweet, you’re giving me a toothache.
  10. This date is just like a big bowl of Frosted Flakes. It’s GRRRRRREAT!
  11. Can I get you a soccer jersey? I really want your name and number.
  12. If you’re a fruit, you’d be a FINE-apple.
  13. Albert Einstein said that there is nothing faster than lightning. But he hasn’t seen how fast I fell for you.

Best Pick-Up Lines for DMs

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  1. Are you French? Cause ma-damn, you’re fine.
  2. Did we go to school together? I swear we had chemistry.
  3. Are you chicken fingers and fries? Because I don’t care how many options are out there, I will always choose you.
  4. Do you have a Band-Aid? I scraped my knee falling for you.
  5. Are you a TV? Because I like watching you.
  6. I don’t think I need glasses anymore because I can clearly see that we’re meant to be.
  7. Know what’s on the menu today? Me ‘n u!
  8. I thought happiness started with “h,” but turns out it begins with “u.”
  9. I would say God bless you, but it looks like he already has.
  10. Good thing I have a library card, because I’m checking you out.

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Smooth Rizz Lines to Use IRL

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  1. I’m not Abraham, but when are we Lincoln?
  2. On a scale from 1 to America, how free are you this weekend?
  3. I’m a pen and you’re a highlighter, I write the future and you make it brighter.
  4. Is your dad a baker? Because you are a cutie pie.
  5. Are you a camera? Because when I look at you, I smile.
  6. My mom told me not to talk to strangers online, but I will make an exception for you.
  7. Are you French? Because Eiffel for you.
  8. Is it hot in here? Or is it just you?
  9. Are you a triangle? Because you’re an acute one.
  10. Kissing is a love language. So, any chance you want to start a conversation with me?
  11. Are you geometry? Because you look good at every angle.
  12. Are you a time traveler? Because I see you in my future.
  13. Do you like soccer? My favorite player is Ronaldo, but we can get MESSI!
  14. Is your heart like a fixer-upper? Because I see potential in us.

Rizz Words for Girls

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  1. Did your license get suspended for driving all those guys crazy?
  2. Math is so confusing. It’s always talking about x and y and never you and I.
  3. Close your eyes and what do you see? Nothing? Total darkness? That’s my life without you.
  4. Hey, I’m sorry to bother you, but my phone must be broken because it doesn’t seem to have your number in it.
  5. If being beautiful was a crime, you’d be on the most wanted list.
  6. Do you know what my shirt is made from? “Boyfriend material.”
  7. I guarantee you, I am not flirting with you. I am just being extra nice to someone who is extra attractive.
  8. I’d like to take you to the movies, but they don’t allow outside snacks.
  9. Is it just the wi-fi signal? Or am I totally feeling a connection?
  10. What is it like to be the most gorgeous person in this room?
  11. My parents told me to follow my dreams, so can I have your Instagram?

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Rizz Lines About Money

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  1. Are you crypto? Cause I want to give you all my money and time.
  2. Are you a bank loan? Because you have my interest.
  3. Are you a parking ticket? Cause you’ve got fine written all over you.
  4. Can I buy you a drink, or do you just want the money?
  5. Is your credit score bad? Because you look like a 10 to me.
  6. Who needs a financial analysis when I know exactly where to put my money?
  7. Did I tell you I’m filthy rich and my mother’s dead?
  8. Mmmmmmm….. You smell expensive!
  9. Are you free tonight? Because I don’t have any money.
  10. You must be debt. Because my interest in you is growing.
  11. I’m not actually this tall. I’m just sitting on my wallet.

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