Hugh Hefner’s Widow Reveals His Last Words

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Despite Hugh Hefner telling his third wife, Crystal Hefner , to “only say good things” about him, she’s telling her story—including what it was like to be married to the Playboy founder —in her new book. She writes in Only Say Good Things: Surviving Playboy and Finding Myself about her relationship with the magazine publisher, who died in 2017 at the age of 91. Crystal and Hugh were married for five years, and she spent his final days with him. But Crystal admits in her memoir that she was never in love with him. She also shares what his last words were before he passed away.

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As reported by Us Weekly , Crystal and Hugh met at the Playboy Mansion Halloween party in 2008. He soon asked her to move into the mansion and became his “main girlfriend.” They became engaged in 2010—though Crystal says that he “never actually asked [her] to marry him” and that she never really said yes. Despite the lack of a proposal, they got married two years later.

“I was never in love with Hef, but I loved this old man in the ways you are supposed to love your elders,” Crystal writes, as reported by the magazine. “In the ways you are supposed to love someone who is nearing the end of a long and complicated life.”

Because of the loyalty she felt to him, Crystal was with Hugh as he died. Shortly after his September 2017 passing, Playboy announced that he had died of natural causes , as reported by CBS News. However, E! News reported in October 2017 that his death certificate provided more details about his cause of death. According to that document, Hugh died after going into cardiac arrest and respiratory failure. His death certificate also lists an E. coli bacteria infection and septicemia (blood poisoning from bacteria) as contributing to his death.

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In her book, Crystal shares that Hugh’s E. coli infection was “aggressive” and “highly resistant to antibiotics and difficult to treat.” She says that she held his hand as he was given antibiotics via an IV and that his last words were “I’m OK.”

Crystal previously opened up about staying with Hugh until his death in a July 2023 interview with the New York Post. “Towards the end of his life, I felt like I couldn’t leave him. I had to take care of him,” she said. “It was like, ‘OK, he adores me and he needs me, and he leans on me for so many different reasons and I can’t leave him.’ So I was there till the very end.”

After Hugh’s death, Crystal began to confront how life at the Playboy Mansion with her husband really affected her. She said that it took therapy and “deprogramming” to move on from the “arrested development” she had been living. Crystal, now 37, revealed that Hugh had strict rules for her during their marriage, including a curfew and a travel ban. Her account of the mansion and Hugh’s “toxic” behavior lines up with some accounts of his other exes.

“It’s called Only Say Good Things because I [had] a conversation with Hef and he let me know: ‘Once I go, when I’m gone, please only say good things about me,’” Crystal told the New York Post . “I kept that promise for the last five years. After going through a lot of therapy and healing, I realized that I needed to be honest about my time there. The book is about healing from a toxic environment.”

Holly Madison Says She Feared Hugh Hefner Would Blackmail Her If She Left Him

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Ever since she left the Playboy Mansion and the TV show The Girls Next Door , Holly Madison , one of Hugh Hefner ‘s exes, has been very outspoken and critical about her time in the world of Playboy . Madison has opened up in interviews and in her book, Down the Rabbit Hole: Curious Adventures and Cautionary Tales of a Former Playboy Bunny , and now, she’s part of the new A&E docuseries, Secrets of Playboy . In the first two episodes, which aired Monday night, Madison shared her story, including why she worried that Hefner would have blackmailed her if she’d tried to leave the Playboy Mansion. Read on to see what she had to say.

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“I think I was drawn to try to be in spotlight because I felt like, if I could be famous, that could be a shortcut to feeling a connection with people. Because we feel connected to celebrities,” she said in Secrets of Playboy ( via People ). She said she was inspired by Anna Nicole Smith , Jenny McCarthy , and Pamela Anderson , who were all major mainstream stars at the time. “The common denominator was they all started out as Playmates. It made a lot of sense to infer that if I start out at Playboy , I could end up like that too, because they did.”

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Once Madison was fully immersed in Playboy Mansion life, she became Hefner’s “main girlfriend” and continued to stay there, even though she didn’t like it. “I felt like I was in this cycle of gross things and I didn’t know what to do,” she said in the docuseries.

“I think I definitely thought I was in love with Hef but it was very Stockholm syndrome, very Stockholm syndrome,” she said in the docuseries. “So Stockholm syndrome is when somebody starts to identify with somebody who’s their captor in some way and I feel like I did that with Hef 100 percent.”

She also called the environment “cult-like,” and explained, “The reason I think the mansion was very cult-like is because we were all kind of gaslit and expected to think of Hef as like this really good guy.” In the docuseries, Madison said that Hefner “screamed” at her for cutting her hair, and fellow Girls Next Door star Bridget Marquardt said that Hefner was particularly “abrasive” with Madison. She also said she had a 9 p.m. curfew, wasn’t encouraged to have friends over, and was told to quit her waitressing job.

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Madison explained that one major reason she felt she couldn’t leave the mansion was because Hefner had explicit photos of her and she feared that they would be released. “When you would go out with Hef, he’s taking all kinds of naked pictures of these women when we’re wasted out of our minds. And he would print out like eight copies for him and all the women, you pass them around. It was just gross,” she claimed. She said this was “always lingering in the back of [her] mind.”

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While appearing on the podcast Power: Hugh Hefner in December 2021, Madison called the photos Hefner had of her and other women “not consensual”.

“I don’t know if he just assumed that was okay because all these women want to be in the magazine so bad. ‘They must be okay with getting naked, so I’m going to take pictures while they’re wasted and just hand those pictures out,’” she said ( via Cosmopolitan UK ). “That’s the kind of thing that can make you feel stuck in a situation or over-invested. It’s one of those things that makes you feel a little more backed into a corner.”

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Madison said that being on The Girls Next Door boosted her confidence and gave her a purpose in staying at the mansion. And around the time the show ended, she thought things would change in her relationship with Hefner. “In 2008, my last year there, the other girls were leaving. It looked like it was just going to be me. I finally thought I got what I wanted out of this situation, and was finally like this committed relationship. But during that time period, he started getting even meaner,” she said.

“At that point, there were no women to pit me against, there was none of that left,” she continued. “And that’s when I had the realization, and I was like ‘Whoa he’s been the problem the whole time.’ I had been locked into the mentality of the mansion, and had felt like there’s no other future for me outside. But I finally saw him for who he was and I had to go.”

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Hefner died in 2017 at age 91, and his family is no longer associated with Playboy , which the brand made clear in an open letter ahead of the Secrets of Playboy premiere.

“First and foremost, we want to say: we trust and validate women and their stories, and we strongly support the individuals who have come forward to share their experiences,” the letter reads in part. “As you know, the Hefner family is no longer associated with Playboy , and today’s Playboy is not Hugh Hefner’s Playboy .”

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